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Showing posts with label students. Show all posts
Sunday morning I made one of the most difficult announcements I have ever made over my 4.5 years at Ridgeview Church. Tommy had preached a sermon on "What is God's Will for My Life." Then, after finishing the final worship song, he asked me to come up and share what God had been doing in our family's life.

Here's what happened.

Milo Wilson - Leaving Ridgeview Church from Ridgeview Church on Vimeo.


Ridgeview has been an incredible place to serve. You stuck with Erin and I last year when we faced the worst thing imaginable: the death of our 8 month old son Josiah. (www.thewilsonheart.com) You have allowed me to do some pretty crazy stuff with your middle school and high school students, and we have all grown very close together in the process. Hopefully your students will continue to learn how to develop into Godly young men and women.

The worship band has grown into something that I am incredibly proud to be a part of. Our little church has learned how to sing and praise God at the top of our lungs together. We love to worship, and we aren't ashamed to do so. What an honor to have been a part of the process.

Pastor Tommy has been an incredible mentor, and a dear friend. You have allowed me to mature as a pastor myself, and have given me the tools to lead others into being a bridge of God's love to all people. Thanks You.

We will still be in Greenville through Oct 24th 2010. At that point Erin, Daylia, Hazyl, and I will begin our trek up northward. I will be joining Darrick Castronova at The Well (www.thewellbuffalo.com) as the Co-Pastor of the new church plant there. Stay tuned for what God has in store!

I, (like many others out there) really enjoy the summer season because it includes a few mission trips. Over the next 3 days I will joining a mission team in the city of Buffalo and leading worship for their evening rally times. I can't get enoughof this stuff. However, mission trips can most definitely get the best of you if you are not approaching them with the correct mindset. Here are a few tips to think about when leading a mision trip that I got from a great writer named Doug Franklin.

The 10 keys are:

1. Going is not enough.
We must be intentional with a student’s mission experience in order to see transformational change happen. Often we think that it’s great the kids are doing a service project. This is shortsighted; we don’t just want them to go, we want them to grow. By being intentional with the mission trip, we could see students return with a desire for a daily quiet time, or we could see them want to spend their whole lives in service to the needy. God can do so much through our students; let’s not sell Him short.

2. Be a trip mentor.
A trip is a great place to develop a long-term, life-changing relationship with a student. We must be more than chaperones. Most adults go on trips with students to keep them out of trouble and drive the van. If adults used the trip to develop deep relationships that led to mentoring, then the trip could be more than a mountain top experience for students. Challenge and train adults to look for opportunities to become a mentor while on the trip.

3. Have a purpose for the trip.
What do you want your students to look like when they return? How do you want them to be different? Once you have answered this question, work backwards from that goal to where you are now. What kind of experiences do your students need to have to look and think like your goal? Share your plan with the other adults going on the trip. Cast the vision for your plan to parents and get them on board. Inspire the students with how their world will be different because they have changed. All of these activities will be positive reinforcement of the purpose of the trip.

4. Inspire spiritual growth.
A mission trip is a great place for a student to encounter God. Students will feel a need for God while on the trip, and this is a great opportunity for you to introduce them to spiritual disciplines. Set aside time on the trip for devotions and prayer. Provide a tool like a Bible study guide or prayer journal that students can use. Encourage students to continue with spending time with God even as they return home. Don’t miss this golden opportunity to inspire spiritual growth.

5. Find teachable moments.
Teachable moments happen when you mix a student’s experience with the truth of God’s Word. On mission trips, students will encounter many different experiences, and they will be challenged to think in new ways. Look for the moments to help them make applications for changing their lives back home. We have the opportunity to help them connect the dots between real life and God’s Word.

6. Challenge students.
Challenging students starts with challenging the top performing students. Usually we want to challenge the students who don’t “get it.” But challenging the student who do is much more productive since it gives those who are struggling a model to follow. Challenge can be as simple as asking students: Is there a better way? How can we improve tomorrow? These questions will require students to think about their performance and how they can grow.

7. Get sleep.
Trips become increasingly ineffective as team members become tired. I am amazed by how many teams come on trips with the idea they are going to stay up all night. Years of experience have proven this to be true: Students can’t be challenged or learn if they haven’t had enough sleep.

8. Add value to your adult volunteers.
I have led over 200 student mission trips, and the number one problem I see over and over again is adult volunteers who have no idea what they are doing on the trip. They come because youth trips need adults, but beyond that they are not sure why they are there. We can change this by offering pre-trip training, by providing clear roles, and by having a clear purpose for the adults being on the trip (As mentioned above, my purpose would be mentoring relationships that lead to life change.). Another way to add value to adult volunteers is to write a note to their spouse thanking them for their sacrifice.

9. Remember Boundaries = Love.
Don’t give students what they want; give them what they need. If you raise the level of expectation, your students will rise to meet it. If we have low expectations for our students, they will meet that as well. Start now before the trip and ask more of students than you think possible. Challenge their potential and see what happens.

10. Stay connected to God.
You can’t impart what you do not have. If your spiritual tank is empty, you can’t expect students to fill theirs. We must work first and foremost to have intimacy with Christ. Acts 20:28 says, “So guard yourself and God’s people.” Giving to others starts with having something to give; it starts with you having a deep, personal relationship with God.

Focusing on these keys will lead to great mission trips this summer. If you would like the PowerPoint that goes with this material, check out the Freebie section at www.dougfranklinonline.com
This weekend, I will be participating in the 30 Hour Famine at our church. We will be joining people from around the country and going without food in order to raise money and awareness for children devasted by the earthquake(s) in Haiti this year. I am asking that you would donate $1 for every hour that I will go without food. With that $30, a child is Haiti's needs can be met for an entire month. My personal goal ($360) is to raise enough money cover that child's needs for 12 months, an entire year. Please take the time to watch the video below, it explains in detail why we are doing this project. You can also check out RidgeStudents Famine 08
or RidgeStudents Famine 2009 to see what we do specifically here.



original video source

I will be part of a RidgeStudents group that will have tremendous impact in the Greenville, Greer, Taylors, Blue Ridge areas of South Carolina this weekend. Here is what our schedule will look like.


Schedule for 30 Hour Famine 2010

Friday April 23rd
12:00 Eat a good lunch at school / work
5:00 Meet at Blue Ridge High School
5:30 - 8:00 bridge project #1 Miracle Hill Boys Shelter
9:00 stay outdoors at Lookup Lodge in cardboard boxes
10:00 Lesson time #1
12:00 lights out

Saturday April 24th
7:00 Get Up
7:30 Lesson time #2
8:30 – 11:30 bridge project #2 help set-up at Paris Mountain Friends Day
12:00 – 2:30 bridge project #3 Miracle Hill Thrift Store
3:00 – 4:00 bridge project #4 clean up home and yard of a handicap woman in Greer, SC.
4:00 - 5:00 bridge project #5 clean up trash from vacant lot in Blue Ridge, SC
5:30 Lesson time #3
6:00 EAT at the Jefferson’s home!

If would be willing to make a donation, please mail a check to
Ridgeview Church
PO Box 1077
Taylors, SC 29687
Memo: 30HrFamine Milo Wilson

or donate securely online
at www.give.ridgeviewchurch.net and designate your donation for 30HrFamine Milo Wilson.

Thank you in advance for your support!
I spent an hour on the phone yesterday with a great friend of mine from high school, Ben Phillips. He is one one of those guys I can pick up right where we left off.... in this case it has been around 5 years or so... but Ben, who is 32 now, was a student leader.

Our church youth group ran around 10 people on average, and most of that number of 10 was comprised of 2-3 families. We had some good things happening at times, but no one new ever seemed to come to youth group. When Ben became a high school upperclassman, he took it upon himself to change the dynamics of our group. He started picking a few of us up 2 hours before our meeting, so we could sit in the church office, flip through the phone book and invite every single friend we could think of to come to youth group that night.

When Ben got his drivers licence, he started driving us to youth conferences when our youth pastor was unable to take us. He would sign us in, and get everyone to their appropriate seats, or break-out sessions. He started to play to play guitar, but couldn't play very well, so he put together a youth choir that could sing accapella together. He contacted local churches, and got their permission to perform music and drama for Sunday evenings, Wednesday night, and special events.

Guess what. The youth group grew! Over the matter of a year or so, our group of 10 became a core group of 25, and attendance of 35 or more. In a small country church surrounded by farmland! In a county with more cows that people! The church grew. People were excited about the new young faces in the crowd. For some reason, the kids from the middle school and high school wanted to be at this church. And you know what? Our church services weren't cool, or hip, or fresh. There were no drums, guitars, or lights. Our old people turned some kids away because they didn't dress "appropriately." Some of our friends broke stuff at the church. Some of them had bad language. But they came. And God started impacting lives...

Then Ben graduated.

What would we do now? Suddenly, I realized that no matter how intimidating it would be, that I had to fill his shoes. I began picking up younger kids before youth group, I began driving to the youth conference, and I began leading the student music/drama team. Why? Because it had been modeled for me. Not by my youth pastor, my Christian school teachers, or my parents. But by one of me peers. A student leader. My wife became a Christian during this time in our youth group. I had the God-given opportunity to share my faith boldly with her at age 15. I had become a student leader.

10-15 years later, Ben and I are both in the ministry, both filling the roles as Worship and Student Pastors. We are both looking for a student leader. Some student who will rise up and say...."Enough." "I am not content with the way things are. I want to see Christ do MORE through my church, MORE through my student ministry... let me try something different."

When that happens.... look out! God will honor it!

Student Pastor/Leader. Will your church be willing to allow students to lead? Will you allow them to call some of their own shots... even if they screw some things up?....

Jer 29:11 (NIV) "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." ...

Student leadership is the only future your church has.
I have spent the last few days getting final prep done for our RidgeStudents trip to Circle C Snow Camp 2010. (www.circlecranch.org) I am totally pumped about the trip, and our students seem pretty excited too.

I can't tell you enough about this place called Circle C Ranch. The impact that one weekend of camp can have on a student's life is really remarkable.

I attended Circle C every year from 8yrs old to 15. Then I worked there for the next 4 years as a wrangler and a counselor. Again and again I can trace parts of my spiritual journey back to this place.

3 years ago when I had the opportunity to bring my youth group to Circle C, I did so wondering if my childhood memories had slanted my decision making in making the 12 hr trip.

Turns out, my memories did not lead me astray. Our kids are challenged, our chaperone's are encouraged, am personally I am motivated by the teaching at Circle C to be a better Youth Pastor and leader. Oh, and by the way we have a blast!

So, I am a huge believer in camps and camp ministries, and obviously Circle C Ranch specifically. What about you? What camp experience helped you go stronger in your faith? Will you empower your students to do the same?

When I began working with students a number of years ago, I found that there was tons of material available for teaching, but I had no real parameters for how to run, plan, or schedule a student ministry. With the school year about to take off, I am getting in an awesome new group of 6th graders, so I am preparing for what the next year will look like for us. Here is one thing that I feel transfers to every student ministry.

The calender is your friend
I publish a semester newsletter called The Scoop, (Spring, Summer, Fall) with all the events for our student ministry listed. This forces me to plan out 4 months in advance. This may seem difficult, but the reality is, it is much more difficult to fly by the seat of your pants. I plan one event per month. Why? I have found that students need a boost sometimes to get them excited about what is happening in RidgeStudents. I should not be the only face they ever see, and I am not nearly as good as some of the other speakers available. Not every month is equal however. Some months/events are very low key and low stress. Kids have sports, schoolwork, and families. I don't try to over-do it.

Here is my template for a typical year's calender

Fall
September - See You At the Pole - prayer
October - Scavenger Hunt - fun day
November - Christian Concert - worship
December - Operation Christmas Child gift wrapping - service

Spring
January - Paintball - fun day
February - Ski Trip - fun/spiritual growth
March - Conference - spiritual growth/worship
April - 30 hr Famine - service

Summer
May - Water Park Day - fun day
June - Churchwide Mission trip - service
July - summer camp - spiritual growth/worship
August - Amusement Park - fun day

Hope this is helpful!
Ridgeview Church's purpose is the be a bridge of God's love to all people so that they may experience His purpose for their lives. This weekend's primary goal was to be a bridge of God's love to our community, but it was also our intention that the students learn about what God has done for them through experience.



This is our 2nd year doing the http://www.30hourfamine.org/ with RidgeStudents. The idea is, sponsors give 1 dollar for each hour the student goes without food. Children in many areas throughout the world, can be fed, educated and sheltered, for 30 dollars. Here is a breakdown of what we were able to accomplish during our 30 hours.



The students ate their lunches at school, roughly around 12:00 noon Friday April 24. Some of the guys have an early lunch, so they ate at 11:15. Those 45 minutes were a killer the following day.



We met at the church office at 5:00pm, and spent some time talking about what the next 24 or so hours would entail. This years group was smaller, and more mobile than groups of year's past. We had 6 students involved throughout the weekend. Some of them were unable to spend every second with us, because of work and school sports, but they were involved nonetheless. We had all guys involved as well, which was something I have never had happen before. I missed the girls, but this was a cool way to experience the famine, and an awesome opportunity for male bonding.



We arrived at the Miracle Hill Boys Shelter at 5:30, and they had a long list of projects for us to do. For some reason, just as we were pulling up the boys in the shelter were occupied "carrying" a ping pong table to the dumpster. They had broken it in a fight earlier in the week, which was a shame, because whoever donated the thing had bought a really nice one. These boys absolutely destroyed it in the process, of "carrying" it to the dumpster. Some of our guys wanted to intervene, because the only thing broken on the table were the legs, and what was left of the table could have been salvaged pretty easily.But, we were pretty much too late. It was an interesting way to start the weekend.



We were given a laundry list of things to do at the shelter, including cleaning their 8 bathrooms, policing the grounds, scrubbing down their industrial oven, organizing their large food pantry, sweeping the basketball courts, organizing the clothes donation closet, cleaning the classrooms, living room, and kitchen. We were able to work continuously from 5:30 to about 8:45. It was a great effort by everyone there.



One of our guys were mistaken for someone else by one of the boys at the shelter. He insisted that if we came into his house, our guy was gonna get beat up... Needless to say, we did not allow that to happen, and this kid realized that he had mistaken our guy for someone else. Most of the boys in the shelter were very friendly, but there were a few who didn't seem to respond well to us trying to serve them.



Around 9:30pm we arrived at Lookup Lodge were we would be spending the night. We built a cardboard village out on one of their ball fields, so that we could experience what it is like to sleep like homeless person. Clint is one of the staff members at Lookup Lodge. He is as close to Grizzly Adams as I have ever met in real life. He is also one of the strongest Christians I have ever met. He took us out on a night hike, carrying a lantern in one hand, and a machete in the other to clear the trail. He brought us up to the top of a large hill where the trees cleared out into an open field under a bright starry sky.



Clint turned of the lantern, and with the machete in his hand proceeded to tell the students; "The reason I brought you up here tonight, away from all the activity, on a trail you might never find again,... is to kill you." One of my guys laughed nervously, but the rest of them were pretty sure Clint was telling them the truth. It was a beautiful thing. He had their absolute undivided attention in that moment. He gave a great devotional about following the Light, Jesus Christ. Then we returned to our cardboard village.

After some basketball, we called it a night and crashed in our cardboard homes, which were surprisingly comfortable at the end of a long day.

Ridgeview Church's purpose is the be a bridge of God's love to all people so that they may experience His purpose for their lives. This weekend's primary goal was to be a bridge of God's love to our community, but it was also our intention that the students learn about what God has done for them through experience.

In the morning, Saturday April 25 we all woke up at about 6:30 am, because the sun was coming up. My box had wilted away during the night because of the heavy dew, and all I had left were some cardboard sheets. We began moving around, I taught a devotional lesson on Daniel, Shadrack, Meshack, and Abednego when they went without the King Nebukanezer's food, and survived on grapes and water. Our fast would not include grapes, but because of the soon-to-be-90-degree-day, we would be drinking Gatorade.

At 8:30 we arrived at Paris Mountain State Park where they were having a Friend and Family day. We spent the next two hours setting up tables, chairs, tents, and helped the vendors carry their supplies down from the parking lot. One of the vendors brought a crate full of dirt with which to let kids plant flowers at her table. That took every one of us to carry, and hurt every step of the way. Maybe next time she could plant flowers in the existing dirt. It is everywhere!
This was a cool part of the weekend, because we had a ton of interaction with people. Most of them tried to thank us for helping by offering food to our students. It was cool to watch our guys explain what we were doing and why, and watch the expressions of people in response to what they just heard. They were shocked!

At 10:30, other help had begun to arrive, so we excused ourselves and went to my house where we loaded up a trailer full of every lawn and garden tool in my shed. I also allowed the students to do some sawing, hammering, and screwing to build a 3 foot cross that they would later erect at a handicap woman's house. It is so interesting to watch students build something with their hands. They suddenly had ownership over that cross we were going to give her. I am glad I decided not to go ahead and build it ahead of time.

At 11:30, we returned again to Lookup Lodge, for what proved to be the weekend's hardest task. I had called ahead to set up this service opportunity time, but we hadn't nailed own yet what the students would be doing. When we got there, they put us to work! It was hovering around 90 degrees, and we hadn't eaten for 24 hours. We had to clear downed tree limbs from an ice storm this winter from the woods. The main reason for doing this, is because it helps keep a fire from spreading if it were to start. Every downed tree limb is what they call a fire bridge. It carries fire from one tree to the next. Without the bridge, in most cases the fire will be easily contained. This was hard! I mean we were in the woods! There downed trees everywhere. And, the section we were working on was on a very steep slope. Every trip back into the woods was like running bleachers at the high school. But we survived, and the area we cleared looked a ton better. The guys began asking me what time it was, every 3-4 minutes by the time we were about to finish. It was like the "are we there yet?" question every parent gets while on vacation. Eventually, you finally get there.

From Lookup, we headed to the home of Renee Smith, where we arrived at 2:00pm. At this point we were 26 hours in without food, and only Gatorade or water to drink. Because I felt bad for them, we stopped at a gas station on the way, where I bought everyone an ICEE. This may have been cheating, but it was getting very hot and I wanted to be certain we were doing all we could to keep them hydrated and cool. Renee is a former member of our church, who is now housebound with Lou Gehrig's disease. We spent the next hour and a half cutting her grass, clearing her flowerbeds, pruning the trees, and planting new flowers her mother provided for us. This was emotionally much more rewarding for the students than dragging trees out of the woods. They could immediately see the fruits of their labor, and the time flew past rapidly.

We went from Renee's house to the home of Judy Beck, a woman I had come into contact with through Greer Community Ministries. The students were looking forward to seeing her again, because we had helped her a year ago, when we did the 30 hour famine for the first time. The first thing we did upon arriving at her house at 4:00pm was to erect the cross on her porch railing. She had asked me to have it built for her, because she is in a wheelchair, wanted to be able to see it out her window every time she looked out to the street, as a reminder to her of the suffering Jesus went through on the cross. His suffering would always be greater than her pain. This was a really cool thing for the students to hear. We also cut her grass, cleared some branches from her yard, and cleaned up the flowerbeds. She was very grateful.

The time was now 4:45 pm. With only an hour to go, all we had to do was take the trailer back to my house, unload all of the tools, and put all the branches we picked up at Judy Beck's and put them on the fire pit. There I taught our final lesson on Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego and the Fiery Furnace. I challenged them to always remember this weekend, and how they got through it even though they didn't think they would at times. God can get you through any situation if we are living within His standards.

The clock had reached 5:51 pm. It was time to get some food! I had called ahead and set up one final twist to our famine experience. We arrived at Gerrie Jefferson's home for our feast. However, the final twist was that we would only be provided a fork and a plastic shopping bag. Why? Last year we served at the soup kitchen and a number of people took extra plates and dumped the food into shopping bags on the way out to take with them. This was just one more way to experience their pain. Everyone complained, but everyone ate. As you might expect, no one turned down a meal after 30 hungry hours just because it wasn't on a plate. I think the point was made very clearly.

All in all it was a fantastic weekend. As you might expect, we are still taking donations The purpose of this project is to go 30 hours without food, and get sponsors to pay a dollar per hour you you fast. Every $30 raised can feed a child for a month. We have supported 4 children over the last year, and feel it is our responsibility to do so again in 2009. If you are a parent, and would like to sponsor a student, or just an individual who would like to make a donation to the cause, please make a check out to Ridgeview Church, and write "30 hour famine" on the memo. Also, you can give securely online at http://www.give.ridgeviewchurch.net/ by selecting "Make a Designated Donation" and designate your gift for "30 Hour Famine"


It’s wild to think that into today’s culture—at a time when Bibles have never been more available… when you can have one in any color you want—biblical illiteracy is so incredible rampant. Even in the church, many people don’t know the Word. Some findings that document an overall lack of knowledge among churchgoing Christians include the following:
1. The most widely known Bible verse among adult and teen believers is “God helps those who help themselves” - which is not actually in the Bible and actually conflicts with the basic message of Scripture.
2. Less than one out of every ten believers possess a biblical worldview as a basis for his or her decision making or behavior.

A crisis of basic biblical and theological knowledge exists in America’s churches, and church leaders must do all they can to address this growing problem.
That is why our entire RidgeStudents curriculum centers on God’s Word. We want students to know Christ and His unchanging Word. We are working hard in this area, for your sake. We want a believing generation to be empowered for full, free life in Christ! We want to help you gain a better perspective of God’s redeeming work across all of time.

The thing is, many of our students are still not reading the Bibles that they own. So, in order to make things easier for you, let us suggest the following product:

The Holy Bible: The Game. The description for this Game Boy Advance title reads: “Welcome to The Holy Bible: World English Bible. Now you can bring a small compact copy of The Holy Bible with you where ever you go. Complete with the ability to keep bookmarks and perform word searches. Reading the Bible was never easier.”
The only way this game could be better is if we could be like disciples running around. We could unlock Jesus as a secret character and do His missions. Maybe then students would be able to experience the Bible!

While you can try the game out if you choose, why don’t you start by bringing your Bible to RidgeStudents each week? You will find that this ancient book has the power to transform your life!


BTW – You probably guessed that I didn’t just know all this stuff off the top of my head. A good writer always cites his sources. In my case they were George Barna and Randy Hall. - MILO
Once again, we are participating in what is called the 30 hour famine.( www.30hourfamine .org ) Our students will be going without food from lunch on Friday afternoon through dinner Saturday evening. We will be giving whatever money they raise to World vision ( www.worldvision.org ) and sponsor 1-3 children for the next year. They will be working at soup kitchens and shelters in the area to help them see what people in hunger in our area are living like. The plan is to have them sleep in cardboard boxes Friday night April 24th.
 
This is our second year doing the event. Are you part of a church that partipates in this as well? If you are  in Upstate SC, would you like to join up forces with us?
 
Also, we are still looking for some volunteer opportunities. In the past we have done yardwork, worked at a concert, volunteered at a soup kitchen (try that sometime while fasting!) and some other stuff...
 
I need some more projects! We work for free!
 
Any ideas?
I had an awesome time at the Unleash Conference in Anderson today. I found today that I fit a stereotype. I was asked on multiple occasions: "are you looking for the student ministry breakout?" The thing is, I was.

But I was not one of the square-glasses-graphic-tee-wearing-frosted-hair-iphone-macbook-converse-shoe youth pastors that were EVERYWHERE at this conference. Were you one of them? Am I one of them?
josh and savannah in the piggyback race
hillary and corey in the 3 legged race
On the ski trip in Niagra Falls NY. These guys were real excited about the red bench...

here is what you missed

like looking directly into a really loud sunshine...awesome...and will make u dizzy

i guess they r singing.... its 2 loud 2 tell.

I teach release time every week at blue ridge middle school. I really have a blast working in that environment, being on the school campus, and interacting with kids outside of my normal RidgeStudents group. Today I had the bright idea to have the kids engage the lesson through using something called the trust circle.

Everything went well all day long until the final class 30 minutes before the bell lets them out of school for the day. This time, when the very first girl tries the trust circle, she falls back, then is pushed forward (and not caught) and bounces her face off of a chair that was left too close to the circle. Immediately her face is covered in blood. Her braces are caught in her lip, and her gums are lacerated.

I have a volunteer take her to the bathroom, and then have to turn to the group and ask: "who wants to go next?" Needless to say, the class may not have been as productive as the earlier sessions. Her mother is called to the school where our volunteer meets them at the nurses office.

All I can imagine is the mother's face when she says: "You were doing what?"

I'm sorry Mrs. Mom... this is not the experience I had in mind either.